Monday, February 3, 2014
Our Second Pregnancy Journey
This pregnancy has been pretty different from my first but before I get into that let's start at the beginning...
If everything went according to plan I'd be about 27 weeks pregnant right now rather than 11. We decided that we wanted our kids relatively close together and figured that once Gabriel turned 1 we'd get pregnant with our 2nd right away... because that's how things when down with Gabriel. There was only one huge glitch in my plan, 12 months postpartum I still wasn't ovulating. We were breastfeeding and I knew that that tended to prolong the amount of time the body goes without ovulating but many of my friends who had a baby recently had their cycles back by at least 10 months if not way sooner. I'll be honest, I started thinking that maybe I was broken and that Gabriel was it, I was done. This was of course after I'd make sure I wasn't actually pregnant.... every month. Once we crossed over 12 months I began talking with my doctor and it was concluded I was just "a lucky one" as put by my nurse. I was also told that sometimes a woman's body needs to be 'rebooted' which is done with hormone injections and that if I was 150% sure I wasn't pregnant they could began those series of injections. Though I went round and round in my head that something was wrong I knew deep down that that probably wasn't entirely true and that my body would eventually come around. I really wanted to be pregnant soon but also knew that I didn't want to try and take the timing away from God. Finally after 14 months postpartum I got my period.
I was happy for my period to be confirmed that my body wasn't broken but I was also frustrated that I didn't skip my period into another pregnancy. Yes I know this is ridiculous, never happy. The following month we planned to get pregnant but wound up having our one fight of the entire year (Seriously, we don't fight. We disagree and have discussions but fighting just doesn't happy often- Chris isn't a fighter, I've tried.) the week I was ovulating so nope, didn't get pregnant that month. Then it got tricky, we knew that if we were to get pregnant the following month there was a high chance we'd have two kids with the same or at least very close birthdays... I didn't really care for that but talked to a lot of friends and they said they either had a sibling with a very close birthday or knew of siblings that did and that it was always a lot of fun so we went for it.
Right away I began having some similar symptoms to my first pregnancy but far less obvious- back pain, tiredness, breast tenderness. Because the symptoms were so mild I kept thinking that it might just be in my head. One day I'd be totally convinced I was and the next I was sure I wasn't. At one point my SIL asked me if I had to bet one million dollars one way or another, which way would I go and I said pregnant.
Five days before I was supposed to get my period I secretly took a pregnancy test and it turned out negative. I wasn't too bummed by it because I knew it was early even though the test claimed to give results 6 days in advance. When it was the day before my period I asked Chris when I should take a test, he told me to wait until after my period should be over. I said okay but then went in the bathroom, ran the sink facet, unwrapped a test, did my thing and waited. After a couple minutes the faintest second line showed up! I walked out of the bathroom and said, "so I know you told me to wait but.... we're going to have a baby!" It took him all of 5 minutes to process what was happening. No emotion, no expression, just full confusion as he stared at the 2 lines. He eventually came around and we matched my excitement.
We were leaving for Japan when I was only 6.5 weeks along and though my doctor doesn't tend to see patients until closer to the end of the 1st trimester he had me come in so we could form a game plan for while I was in Japan and get me my prenatal records. I also went in for an ultrasound to get a more accurate due date and to check to see the initial growth of the fetus and the health of my lady parts. It was so sweet to see that little grain of rice sized heartbeat of just a 6 week old baby! It never ceases to amaze me how rapidly these babies develop.
The first 6 weeks were mild but from 6 weeks to now my morning sickness has been a lot more prominent than it ever was with Gabriel. My biggest issue with the 1st pregnancy was just being sick from all the germs I picked up as a 1st year teacher. This time around though I've dealt with a lot of nausea and fatigue. Between the nausea and not being a kinder teacher I haven't gained any weight yet when last time I had already put on a comfy 10! There were a lot of treats in a kindergarten room and when the lunch lady knows you're pregnant she feeds you both meal options. When I'm feeling up to it I've been able to get in some T25 sessions which I am absolutely loving! As far as appointments go I'm going to go in at around 20 weeks to get an ultrasound for my doctor but other than that I think I will wait until getting back home to do anymore check ups unless my doctor says otherwise.
I'm looking forward to entering the 2nd trimester in a few weeks to hopefully be passed the nausea and gain some energy back.