Today marks Hub's and my three year anniversary. We truly cherish our life together and couldn't imagine it any other way but this was something we actually did discuss the other night half heartedly. We aren't fighters, we're talkers and hikes, bookstores and board games bring a lot of joy to our hearts. With that said three years running our anniversary has been hands down some of the least enjoyable times we've had together.
Year 1: HUGE expectations on both ends wanting to make it the best and everything flunked. There was lots of crying and a lot of silence and a "romantic" trip ended less than 24hrs after it started. We now know we set ourselves up for this with so many expectations and it is all a pretty big joke now.
Year 2: I was 7 months pregnant wrapping up the end of the year teaching kindergarten and Chris was sick as a dog on the couch all week. I didn't remember until I went to write the date on the board before class and Chris plum forgot.
Year 3: We could have finally flown home today but it would have cost us $1700 to switch my ticket and that was just for economy. So, we're here another two days.
It's funny- on one hand we want to acknowledge and celebrate that we have been married for another year since marriage should be celebrated but on the other hand our normal days are just so much better than our anniversary days have been. We've talked about keeping our celebrating really low-key until 5 or 10 years and then take a trip with the money we didn't spend on the previous anniversaries but with our luck that probably wouldn't work out either. Or maybe when we have a great day/weekend no matter when it happens we can claim that as our anniversary celebration.
I used to think that the old traditional anniversary gifts were silly but maybe if we started with paper and worked our way up (year two was cotton and year three is leather) then maybe our experiences wouldn't have been so awful in comparison to everyday life. Fortunately the quality of anniversary celebrations is not a reflection of marriage, phew!
What's your history with anniversaries?